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By: Ellie Burgueño, Journalist and Writer.
From a young age, many girls are enchanted by the promise of a fairytale ending—one where Prince Charming sweeps them off their feet and leads them to a life of happiness and security. But reality paints a far different picture. In today’s world, where relationships are increasingly fragile, financial independence is a necessity, and resilience is key, young women must be prepared not for castles and glass slippers, but for self-sufficiency, confidence, and the ability to navigate life’s challenges. The traditional narratives fed to generations of women have left many unprepared for the complexities of modern relationships, often resulting in heartbreak, dependency, and even abuse. It’s time to shift the narrative and equip women with the tools they need to thrive—regardless of whether or not Prince Charming ever arrives.
For decades, Disney movies and similar fairytales have instilled in young girls the idea that true happiness comes from finding a prince. The message is clear: love conquers all, and a knight in shining armor will always be there to rescue them. While these stories are entertaining, they also reinforce a damaging perception that women should be passive, waiting for a man to complete their lives.
Many women grow up believing in the fantasy of effortless love, expecting romance to be their salvation. But what happens when the prince turns out to be a villain? What if, instead of a loving partner, a woman finds herself trapped in a relationship with a narcissist or an abuser? The reality is that many women enter relationships unprepared for the challenges that may come their way—financial control, emotional abuse, and manipulation—because they were never taught to expect or handle them.
Consider the story of a young woman who believed she had found her Prince Charming. Swept off her feet by a charismatic, seemingly devoted man, she married quickly, expecting a lifetime of love and support. But soon after, the fairytale crumbled. Her husband became controlling—dictating how she dressed, whom she spoke to, and even how she spent money. Financially dependent on him, she found herself trapped, unable to leave. The man who once seemed like her savior became her greatest obstacle, leaving her isolated and powerless.
With no skills, no job, and no savings, she felt she had no escape. But survival instincts kicked in. She took online courses, learned new skills, and found ways to earn her own money. Slowly, she gained the confidence and financial stability needed to leave him. She took her children and walked away—not into a castle, but into a new life where she was her own savior. This story is not an exception; it is the harsh reality for many women who enter relationships unprepared for the possibility that they may need to stand on their own.
The key to preventing such situations is preparation. Women must be raised with the understanding that while love is beautiful, it is not a financial plan. Every girl should be taught to build her own future, regardless of whether she chooses to marry or not. This means:
- Financial literacy: Understanding savings, investments, and economic independence is crucial. Women should learn from an early age how to manage money, build wealth, and recognize financial red flags in relationships.
- Education and skill-building: A strong education and marketable skills provide the foundation for a secure future. Women should be encouraged to pursue careers and opportunities that allow them to be self-sufficient.
- Emotional resilience: Understanding self-worth, setting boundaries, and recognizing toxic behaviors early on can protect women from becoming trapped in harmful relationships.
- Support networks: No woman should feel alone. Strong friendships, family bonds, and professional networks provide safety nets for those facing difficult situations.
While individuals can take steps to empower themselves, society also plays a crucial role. Schools should implement programs that teach financial literacy and self-defense, governments should create policies that protect women from financial abuse, and families should shift their teachings from “find a good husband” to “become a strong individual.”
Moreover, men must also be prepared for this shift. A society where women are independent and strong requires men who respect, support, and stand beside them as equals. Relationships should be built on partnership, not dependency.
The modern woman must rewrite the fairytale—not one where she waits for a prince, but one where she is the architect of her own destiny. Love should be a choice, not a necessity. Women should be empowered to stay in relationships because they want to, not because they have no other option.
By shifting the narrative, we can prepare the next generation to enter the world with confidence, resilience, and the ability to create their own success story. This is not about rejecting love or companionship—it’s about ensuring that women are equipped to thrive on their own, so that if and when they do find love, it is a partnership of equals, not a desperate attempt to be rescued.
In a world where women are often unprepared for the challenges of modern life, it is crucial to equip them with the skills and mindset needed to thrive. Financial independence is not just an option—it is a necessity. Women must learn to think big, develop practical business strategies, and make informed decisions about their personal and professional lives. Finding the right partner is also essential, as true happiness and abundance stem from a balanced and supportive relationship.
Recognizing this need, I developed my second book, “Hey Girls! You Can Also Become Badass Money Makers,” to provide young girls and grown women with the tools to build a financially independent life. This book covers essential topics such as the power of thinking big, developing a business plan, and making wise choices in relationships. It is designed to empower women to take control of their futures, ensuring they are never trapped by circumstances beyond their control.
The world is changing, and women must change with it. No more waiting for Prince Charming—it’s time to become the hero of our own stories.
Find my book at www.Amazon.com, in its English or Spanish version.
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